As kids, we are told to "mind our own business." It's a fair statement because we often find ourselves preoccupied with how others perceive us, how they act, and what they think of us. We naturally worry about being liked. It's something ingrained in us from birth.
As we grow older and form relationships, whether they are friendships, romantic partnerships, or business alliances, our subconscious goal seems to be to maintain peace and keep people in our lives. We were never taught that encountering challenges in relationships is okay. Learning how to express our feelings to others is one of life's most important lessons.
Then, as adults, we start realizing that we may be trapped in patterns that make us strive for control over others. This tendency is evident in politics, religion, influencer culture, education, and practically every aspect of life. If someone doesn't share our perspectives, we tend to view them as flawed and responsible for ruining our world and society. Consequently, people become angry and engage in fights because they would rather impose their views than understand where the other person is coming from.
Seek understanding rather than blame; it paves the way for healing and compassion.- Elaine
Later in life, if we possess self-awareness, we begin to recognize that the only person we can control is ourselves. We can only control how we perceive things, how we respond, and our own actions. If we delve deeper into this liberating process, we discover that Radical Self Love is what frees us from societal constraints and entanglements with others. We realize that Self Love allows others to have their thoughts without compromising our sense of security. We can have friends who disagree with us, and people can hold opposing truths while still finding harmony.
Self Love provides a sense of liberation to things that previously didn't make sense. We allow others to embark on their own journey without imposing our ideas of what they should do. We stop acting as a higher power. We begin to understand that the only action required is holding space for those who are finding their way. Forcing, manipulating, and giving ultimatums only harm both the person involved and ourselves.
We start making choices that are radically loving for ourselves, and these choices ultimately benefit others. Accepting the things we can control entails healing past perceptions of all the hurts we have experienced. It means not expecting others to heal those hurts for us. Once we embark on the path of Unconditional Self Love, we realize that nothing was personal, and nobody intentionally hurt us. We can allow others to live their lives and speak their truth without it affecting our sense of self.
Courageously changing the things we can involves healing our past wounds, liberating ourselves from the need for others to heal us. Once we travel the road of Unconditional Self Love, we understand that nothing was personal and that nobody deliberately intended to hurt us. We can let others live their own lives and express their truths. If something they say triggers us, it doesn't diminish our worth as individuals.
In this ongoing process, we cultivate the wisdom to discern what we can change and what lies beyond our control. We find solace in accepting the limitations of our influence while harnessing the power to transform our own lives through self-love. It is through this delicate balance of acceptance and empowerment that we unlock the true essence of personal growth, peace, and fulfillment.
Are you ready to embark on this journey of Radical Self Love, embracing its liberating power, and radiating it into the world? May we find the courage to heal, the strength to embrace our unique journeys, and the wisdom to extend compassion to ourselves and others. With Radical Self Love as our guiding light, we can create a more harmonious and understanding world—one that celebrates individuality, fosters connection, and thrives on love.
With All My Heart,
Elaine