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Your Childhood Holds the Key to Healing

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Relationships that don't last, addictive tendencies, sabotaging behaviors and patterns of avoidance, can all be reasons why looking to your childhood could be beneficial for you.

People often want to just "move on" and continue to build on top of a foundation that is unstable from childhood. in this video I go into why our childhood holds answers that we may not have even been aware of.

Reflecting on Your Childhood

let’s take a moment to reflect on your childhood experiences. Consider summarizing your childhood in one word. Think about whether you felt emotionally nurtured or if there was emotional negligence. Did you feel the need to conform or suppress your authentic self? For many of us, the roots of our adult struggles can be traced back to unresolved childhood experiences. Some of us are aware of an "abnormal" childhood, while others may simply be puzzled by recurring patterns in adulthood—be it fleeting relationships or addiction cycles.

Identifying Patterns

  • Emotional Neglect: Did you feel emotionally supported?

  • Authenticity: Did you have to put on an act to be accepted?

  • Relationship Patterns: Are you wondering why your relationships don’t last?

Understanding Trauma

Before we dive deeper, it's essential to comprehend what trauma truly is. Trauma is often misunderstood as an event, but it's the emotional, neurological, and physiological disconnect within us as a response to a distressing situation.

The Nature of Trauma

Trauma is the disconnect between the body and the brain that occurs under strong emotional influence, disrupting our physiological and emotional systems. This disconnect can have long-lasting effects, shaping how we perceive and respond to the world around us.

"Trauma is not the experience itself; it is what happens inside us as a response."

How Trauma Manifests

Different individuals perceive situations uniquely, influenced by factors such as upbringing and emotional learning. Understanding trauma involves recognizing our body’s response to events rather than the events themselves.

Emotional Influences

  • Strong Emotional Responses: These can lead to our body shutting down certain mental processes.

  • Perception: Our learned ways of processing emotional events can lead to lasting trauma.

Hidden Effects of Trauma

Trauma may not always involve significantly distressing events. Even seemingly minor incidents can have profound impacts if our bodies respond with a strong emotional reaction. This can explain why some people may have symptoms of trauma without having experienced overtly traumatic events.

Long-term Impacts

  • Emotional Wellbeing: Difficulty processing emotions.

  • Neurological Disruption: Misalignment in brain pathways.

  • Relational Issues: Recurring patterns in relationships and behavior.

Recognizing and Addressing Trauma

Backtracking to understand the root of our trauma can be enlightening. For example, exploring the emotional roots behind substance abuse or relational dependencies reveals deeper issues often ignored.

Common Symptoms and Signs

  • Addiction: Substances, relationships, or behaviors.

  • Emotional Patterns: Feeling disconnected or unfulfilled.

Tools for Healing

In the "Blueprint to the Heart," various tools and exercises help in tracing and addressing childhood trauma. One insightful tool is the Core Healing Tracker, which aids in identifying and mapping out core emotional wounds.

Core Healing Tracker

  • Tracing Emotions: Link current emotional responses to past experiences.

  • Identifying Patterns: Recognize recurring emotional triggers.

  • (Download below)

Core wound tracker
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Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)

The ACEs questionnaire helps identify adverse childhood experiences and assesses how these experiences might have impacted emotional and physical health. Higher ACE scores typically correlate with higher risks of negative outcomes.

Examples of ACEs

Divorce: Parental separation.

Abuse: Emotional or physical harm by a household member.

Long-Term Impact of Childhood Trauma

Trauma impacts children in various ways, often manifesting as behavioral issues. As adults, these unresolved issues can lead to challenges in different life areas, including financial stability, self-worth, and physical health.

Behavioral Manifestations

  • Substance Abuse: Early initiation into drugs or alcohol.

  • Peer Groups: Associating with similar troubled individuals.

Financial and Personal Development

Financial insecurities and difficulties in maintaining stable employment can often trace back to unresolved childhood trauma, affecting one’s self-worth and ability to pursue passions.

Healing Practices

Healing from childhood trauma involves recognizing and nurturing the wounded inner child. Art therapy, meditation, and emotional awareness practices are powerful tools on this journey.

Art Therapy

Creating visual representations of past trauma or emotional states can be therapeutic. Whether detailed or abstract, this practice allows for expressing feelings that words cannot capture.

Emotional Awareness

Removing distractions (e.g., excessive work, substances, continuous connectivity) helps in accessing and understanding true emotions. Naming and processing these emotions is crucial for healing.

Addressing childhood trauma requires unraveling the layers of emotional, neurological, and physiological impacts. It’s a personal journey towards reconnecting with the authentic self. The tools and exercises from Blueprint to the Heart guide you along this path.

Remember, this is a gradual process. Allow yourself the space and time to heal, and don’t hesitate to seek support when needed.

Do you have any experiences you’d like to share or questions to ask? Leave a comment below or contact me directly.

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In Love,


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