We Don’t Just Inherit Our Mother’s Eyes

Inner Child Breaking Cycles

We inherit the way she held back tears, the way she avoided conflict, the way she sacrificed her truth to feel needed and accepted.”

This message is for the ones who struggle with Mother’s Day.

I honor where you are at and understand the complexity that arrives during this time.

Most people will share about the joy and excitement on Mother’s Day, which is true, and it’s not always easy, for those who don’t have a mom, who don’t have an emotionally present mom, for the ones who feel betrayed or disconnected.

I’m here to share about breaking the cycle and the layers that accompany this.

What This Day Feels Like Now

It’s taken years to enjoy Mother’s Day. Today I feel light, I feel Free with no expectations, joy, contentment, gratitude.

 I feel blessed for the resentment and patterns I healed and for the rewriting of what my children have been able to experience, to some degree. I feel this most days and recognize that Mother's Day is just another day to live in the appreciation.

The greatest gift I gave myself and my kids was learning how to reparent myself, from a place of compassion and grace. When I began decoding my past and healing generations of survival mechanisms, I wrote a book on this, Blueprint to the Heart—and healing the “mother wound,” everything started to shift.

Looking Back: The Layers of My Childhood

My childhood was filled with adversity. As a child, I had both my Mom and Grandma caring for me in their own ways. My mom, still a child herself in many ways, was trying to figure out how to navigate a world that didn’t offer her much safety or guidance. My grandma, angry at life, still managed to bring me joy in the most unexpected ways.

As I grew older, resentment took root. I began blaming my mom for everything I thought went wrong in my life. Her emotional absence felt like the root of it all. And when my grandma died when I was 14, it felt like I lost the one consistent caregiver I had. Another layer of grief, another layer of blame.

Not only did I carry the weight of my family, but I also began resenting people who had mothers. I let this burden harden my heart. I felt entitled, justified, and quite frankly unable to take responsibility for my emotions at that time.

Eventually, I began getting curious. 

Connecting the Dots: Pattern, Polarity, and Parenting

I saw my patterns were connected to my mom’s upbringing, and hers were because of her Mom’s. If she only did what she knew how to do, then maybe she really was doing the best she could. I assumed she knew better, but when I had children of my own and recognized the extent of my trauma and how I parented from my own wounding, I could see how easy it was to believe I was doing what was best for my kids, but really, I was parenting from a hurt part of myself.

I saw all the connections between the pendulum swing of my mom’s upbringing, my upbringing, and how I was raising my kids. We both parented from the mindset of “my mom did this, so I’ll never do that.” My mom knew how hurtful her own upbringing was and wanted to do the opposite, and I carried that same thought pattern. But that only created more polarity.

Reparenting myself meant healing the polarity and meeting the needs of all past versions of myself, seeing that I can heal and integrate so I can truly listen to my kids without a biased lens.

It takes a lot of work and It’s uncomfortable. It doesn’t happen overnight and it’s ongoing.

However, this is priceless.

A Different Way of Living

The way I show up now is different, I’m more present, I listen better,  I respond with more awareness. I enjoy my kids, and am present-  I enjoy myself, I don’t carry the same weight I used to and have learned compassion and grace for myself and my lineage

That’s what breaking the cycle looks like, it’s not perfect and it can feel all over the place, and I have healed relationships and living circumstances because of this work.

And I’m proud of that, I’m grateful I get to live this way now,  I actually feel the joy, and at times bliss, not  just on Mother’s Day, but in the everyday moments.

For the Reader: If Mother’s Day Feels Heavy

If you’re reading this and Mother’s Day feels heavy, complicated, or like something you’d rather skip,I get it

This work isn’t easy and it’s not instant, AND it is possible

You don’t have to carry what was never yours to begin with, You don’t have to keep repeating what hurt you You get to decide how you move forward You get to create something new Not for perfection, but for peace Not to erase the past, but to stop it from becoming your future

And that is the greatest gift you can give yourself and your family.

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If you’re in this space, doing the work to break cycles, healing your relationship to yourself, your parents, or how you show up with your own children—this is the kind of work I support people through every day

I offer one-on-one spaces for those ready to go deeper.

This includes emotional support through voice note mentorship, private sessions, tarot and oracle guidance and personalized tools to help you reparent, reconnect, and rebuild trust in yourself

If you’ve read this far, you already know this isn’t surface-level work, It’s not about quick fixes or bypassing the pain,

It’s about creating real shifts that change how you live and love

You can start with my book Blueprint to the Heart, which walks you through the deeper emotional patterns many of us inherited and how to begin healing them from the inside out

Or if you’re ready for more hands-on support, you can book a connection call or a one-on-one session with me

I’m not here to tell you who to become

I’m here to walk with you as you remember who you are beneath the conditioning- You are worthy of the healing process!